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The Stages of Actual Change

(Autobiography in Five Chapters, from There's A Hole In My Sidewalk by Portia Nelson)

 

Chapter One

I walk down the street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I fall in.

I am lost . . . I am helpless.

It isn’t my fault.

It takes forever to find a way out.

 

Chapter Two

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I pretend I don’t see it.

I fall in again.

I can’t believe I am in this same place.

But it isn’t my fault.

It still takes a long time to get out.

 

Chapter Three

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I see it is there.

I still fall in . . . it’s a habit . . . but,

My eyes are open.

I know where I am.

It is my fault.

I get out immediately.

 

Chapter Four

I walk down the same street.

There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.

I walk around it.

 

Chapter Five

I walk down another street.

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“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”--Anaïs Nin

Trying to make something work by pretending to feel, think or act in ways that go against how you really feel is exhausting to the body, mind and your spirit.

This realization can feel very uncomfortable. However, it is the door to finding both your energy and yourself as you investigate what you really feel and think about the situations that are distressing in yourself, family and work situations.

I'd like to help you make the actual changes that you need to make.

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Don Elium, MA MFT, practices individual psychotherapy, couple counseling, and grief recovery counseling in his office in Walnut Creek, CA, San Francisco Bay Area.

 

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Don Elium, MA MFT

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist MFC#28381

Individual & Couple Psychotherapy

Progress, not perfection! Email Don Elium Click Here

Something significantly new awaits you.

I hope I have the privilege to work with you soon.

Sincerely, Don

Phone counseling within California

(Cell, Landline, FaceTime or Skype)

Available upon request

 

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